Domestic violence: the general practitioner's role
Ask the question
(Stanko, 1997)
Evidence suggests that women who are being subjected to
violence want to be asked, and that women who are not, do not mind
being asked (Friedman et al., 1992). It is important to ask direct
questions in a gentle, non-threatening manner (Schei, 1989).
Examples are:
- I noticed you have a number of bruises. Could you tell me how
they happened? Did someone hit you?
- You seem frightened of your partner. Has he ever hurt you?
- Many patients tell me they have been hurt by someone close to
them. Could this be happening to you?
- You mention your partner loses his temper with the children.
Does he ever lose his temper with you? What happens when he loses
his temper?
- Have you ever been in a relationship where you have been hit,
punched, kicked or hurt in any way? Are you in such a relationship
now?
- You mentioned your partner uses drugs/alcohol. How does he act
when drinking or on drugs?
- Does your partner sometimes try to put you down or control your
actions?
- Sometimes, when others are over-protective and as jealous as
you describe, they react strongly and use physical force. Is this
happening in your situation?
- Your partner seems very concerned and anxious. That can mean he
feels guilty. Was he responsible for your injuries?